We did a ton of stuff as kids that our parents don’t know about.
Yall, not me. I was in the house
ANYway, kids do secret stuff. That NEVER changes.
But if MOST of our everyday lives were a lie to our parents, if our “real self” was A TOTAL lie, a COMPLETE 180, then that spoke to our parent’s involvement -or lack there of-for SURE.
Yes, parents can’t catch it all- but not catching ANYTHING? Literally never knowing ANYTHING, and being in denial about EVERYTHING about your child doesn’t fall under “all kids are sneaky and I had no clue”.
We snuck out to a person’s house party is different than my child has a drug operation running out of his bedroom.
THAT is not “kids will be kids”, that’s an episode of Snowfall.
Bring back making it HARDER for kids to lead AN ENTIRE DOUBLE LIFE by keeping tabs and constantly keeping them on their toes around the deviant stuff.
Do random phone checks.
Check their rooms.
Check in at a friend’s house for a pop up.
Ask their girlfriend/boyfriend some stuff.
Talk to some GROWNUPS.
Make it UNCOMFORTABLE for them to “be about that life” so easily.
They’ll either get better at it or minimize that behavior. They’re either gonna commit or quit. Either way, you’ll have your answer about who your child is soon enough.
Don’t give up and don’t expect someone else to catch it.
We are the investigators.
Because once you GIVE that job to the system, they will be under the type of surveillance that NEVER stops keeping an eye on them,or you.
Food for thought.
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